One Key to Sex and a Happier Marriage

(This is a repost from February 2015. Enjoy!)

Your sex life is probably a pretty good indicator of how your marriage is doing. In fact, most studies on happy couples find that they enjoy regular sex. Couples of any age!

One study on couples ages 18-46 found that “married men and women who reported above-average sexual satisfaction in their relationship were 10 to 13 times more likely to describe their marriage as ‘very happy,’ compared with those who reported below average sexual satisfaction.”*

Another study on couples ages 57-85 found that “couples who had more frequent sexual encounters had happier, more positive marriages.”**

Sex is also listed as one of the top two reasons couples fight, along with money, in most studies.

Kelly Ripa, 44 year-old cohost of “Live! with Kelly and Michael,” recently made a simple but so profound statement on the secret to her happy near-twenty-year marriage to actor, Mark Consuelos, 43.

“I fundamentally believe that the more you do it, the more you do it, the less you do it, the less you do it.”
-Kelly Ripa***

Is that not the truth about everything? Exercise, reading, church, eating right, complimenting your partner…

Do you want a happier marriage that will last? I do! So, ladies, have more sex!

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“I fundamentally believe that the more you do it, the more you do it, the less you do it, the less you do it.”
-Kelly Ripa on sex in marriage

That doesn’t have to mean you measure success in this area up against a certain frequency, either. Just take the number of times you are having sex with your husbands now per week, or per month, or per whatever, and up it. Just have more sex. Don’t pressure yourself with unattainable goals or tell your hubs you’re going to be available every night. Just make yourself available more than you are now. Whatever that is.

Kelly Ripa added this. “We just like each other a lot. I love my husband. I think he’s awesome.”***

I bet you love your husband and think he’s awesome, too. Why not make him feel it by adding a little more sex?

Studies prove, you’ll be happier for it.

Do you agree with these findings and Kelly Ripa’s advice? How do you make sex a priority in your busy life? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below.

Remember, it’s only one key to a happier marriage, not the key to saving a hurting marriage. I know so many of you are hurting in your relationships, and I’m so sorry for that. Check out our Trenches series on hurting marriages. And some of you are in sex-happy marriages, already. I’m speaking to those of you whose marriages might just benefit from a little more sex.

*Rettner, Rachael. “Generous Couples Have Happier Marriages.” My Health News Daily, 08 Dec. 2011. Web. 05 Jan. 2015.
**Hillin, Taryn. “Study Says Sex Is Key To A Happy Marriage.” The Huffington Post., 27 Feb. 2014. Web. 05 Jan. 2015.
***Fox411. “Kelly Ripa’s Secret to Successful Marriage.” Fox News. FOX News Network, 24 Dec. 2014. Web. 05 Jan. 2015.

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  1. And all the hubbies started sharing this post… LOL :)

  2. Thanks for the advice! I never thought I’d be one of those women who was too tired for sex but now that I’m a mom its a reality :) this is a great reminder to power through and have save some energy for my hubs more often!

    • Sam Davis, Managing Editor Sam Davis, Managing Editor says:

      Girl! I think every mom gets how you’re feeling! I’m so glad you were encouraged by the post. We all need this reminder at some point in our lives. :)

  3. Stephanie Goode says:

    Good article, Sam! I’ll just keep this article hidden from Joel! Lol!

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