Do Not Repay Evil for Evil

Typically, when I hear a story of someone having been bullied, my initial gut desire is to find the bully and start hurling insults back at him or her. I’m not proud of this, but it’s true.

But when a woman named Cassandra Fairbanks saw a man being bullied online, she had a much better idea.

Last month, an anonymous person posted on an online message board two pictures of a man at a concert. The pictures were captioned, “Spotted this specimen trying to dance the other week. He stopped when he saw us laughing.” The first picture was of him dancing. The second picture was of him hanging his head in shame and embarrassment. They had apparently decided he didn’t look the part for being able to dance at a concert.

When Cassandra came across the pictures online, she immediately shared on her Twitter account the online bullying that had occurred, and created the hashtag #FindDancingMan. Within just a few hours, she had rounded up 1700 women that wanted to throw him a dance party in Los Angeles, and posted an invitation for him to the party online.


Within 24 hours he was found, and he accepted the invitation.


As I write this, the dance party is set to occur in a few days. Pharrell Williams asked to attend and is now set to perform, Moby offered his DJ services free of charge, the LA Memorial Coliseum has donated the use of their facilities, and any excess funds from what has been raised to throw the party will be donated to anti-bullying charities.


In addition, Cassandra has started a movement against bullying where people post 10 second videos of themselves dancing in public under the hashtag #dancefree.

I don’t know Cassandra Fairbanks. I don’t know if she is a Christian. But whether she is or not, I am wowed by her for truly living one of great principles of the Christian faith. She did not repay evil for evil. The Bible says,

“Don’t repay evil for evil. Don’t retaliate with insults when people insult you.” 1 Peter 3:9a (NLT)

“Never pay back evil with more evil…Dear friends, never take revenge…Don’t let evil conquer you, but conquer evil by doing good.” Romans 12:17a, 19a, 21 (NLT)

Cassandra didn’t repay hate with hate. She didn’t come across the pictures online and start a Twitter hashtag to identify the bully so we could attack and shame them right back. The bully is almost forgotten in this story. Instead, she focused on identifying the man who had been hurt, the man needing love and support.

She started something wonderful that infinitely overshadowed the bully’s one single comment, with her single act of kindness. Will we do likewise?



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  1. Oh, Brittany, this is a BEAUTIFUL story and so well-written!! Thank you for sharing. LOVE!!!!

  2. Thank you so much Mandy, that means so much!

  3. Amazing Story! THANK YOU!

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